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With the onslaught of online dating apps and matchmaking services out there, you would think your next relationship would be at your fingertips.
But, modern dating presents more difficult challenges than ever before.
It’s also a tough pill to swallow that dating isn’t always rainbows and butterflies like it is in fairytales and movies.
News flash: prince/princess charming doesn’t always save you in the end and it’s not always a happily ever after. Sigh.
No wonder so many of us have such negative feelings—like trust issues and fears of settling—when it comes to dating and relationships.
Our unconscious issues can negatively impact our dating lives and make it difficult for us to attract the right partner and sustain healthy relationships over time.
But, don’t despair.
Rather than waiting for your prince or princess to come rescue you, our therapists are here to help you heal and become the best version of you so you can make space for the right person to enter your life.
You know the old cliche, you have to love yourself before anyone else can love you back?
Well, it’s actually very true. And we’re here to help you get there.
We’re so confident in our extraordinary therapists that we guarantee you’ll love your match – or your money back.
At My LA Therapy, our highly-vetted Anxiety experts are selected not only for their clinical acumen but for who they are.
Our therapists are trained in the latest research and methods can help you overcome the unconscious patterns that may be getting in the way of creating deep and authentic connections while dating, ultimately increasing your chances of finding the right partner and lead to a long-lasting, healthy relationship.
One that is founded on respect, honesty, and open communication—on both sides.
Yep, it does exist!
By fully understanding yourself and how you think, feel, and function—and truly beginning to love yourself—you will be able to create space for a healthy relationship.
And you will have the tools to better understand your partner and the dynamics of your relationship, making it last in the long-run.
It can be difficult to acknowledge the reasons your relationships haven’t panned out in the past.
But, it’s so important to think about your past relationship patterns in order to make a change to your love life.
A common pattern might be going after people who are emotionally unavailable.
Can you relate?
In therapy, we will break down why you gravitate towards these types of people and ways to avoid this tendency in the future.
Another behavior that could be negatively impacting your chances of finding the right partner is your own low self-esteem and lack of confidence.
Learning how to shift certain negative habits of thinking and relating and how to change self-sabotaging behaviors is what will lead to more successful relationships in the future.
Trust is also a key factor when it comes to dating.
If you have trust issues, it’s helpful to know where these problems come from and heal the underlying issues so you can enter your relationships with greater peace and security.
One modality of therapy that can be useful for improving your dating hang ups—or personal struggles in general is Cognitive Behavioral Therapy or CBT.
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy works by targeting negative, irrational beliefs that may be holding you back.
Once you identify your negative beliefs, you can challenge them with more rational responses.
Eventually these new thought patterns will become second nature, and you will be able to move through life with more confidence and peace.
For example, if you believe all men/women cheat, you can use Cognitive Behavioral Therapy methods to come up with examples of people in your life who have NOT cheated.
By countering your limiting beliefs with evidence, you can train your brain to think more realistically.
Check out our dedicated page on Cognitive Behavioral Therapy to learn more.
Couples counseling is another great form of therapy for when you are in a relationship and want to make sure you’re creating a strong foundation to weather any storms that may come.
Sometimes having a neutral territory allows both partners to express their feelings freely.
And having a moderator there—a.k.a your therapist—can help with asking the right questions, coming to insightful conclusions, and mapping out the best course of action for how to keep your relationship strong.
Therapy can successfully improve your dating and love life by helping you minimize the anxiety in your life, identify and change underlying thought and behavioral patterns that contribute to your dating struggles, and provide you with strategies to decrease discomfort while restoring an overall sense of peace.
To experience true and lasting joy in our life, we must face and conquer our pain by healing our underlying trauma and confronting our fears.
Our evidence-based, scientifically proven interventions are demonstrated by research to be effective in overcoming anxiety, depression, and low self-esteem that can get in the way of finding healthy partnerships.
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I am blown away! I don’t write testimonials, unless I have been extremely moved by something. I was blessed to work with Brooke on a single session, and before this I was in therapy on and off with multiple therapists for the last 20 years of my life. Brooke was able to do more in one session than many years of work with my previous therapist. She has the true gift of great insight and compassion while also getting straight to the heart of your blind spots and unconscious issues in a way that has truly changed my life.
Skyler J.
There are people who are good at their work there are people like Brooke: who are born to do it. I cannot recommend Brooke more highly. I can only imagine where I would be today if I had started working with her years ago. From the beginning of our session, she knew exactly what tools and questions that would work for my particular psychology and my personal experience. No other therapist has been able to do that or anything close.
What I also really appreciate from our session is Brooke's ability to go directly to the source of the issue while also keeping a very gentle and kind energy with me. I felt very seen, understood, and supported. Everything and more that I could have ever asked for from a therapist. I have a severe trauma history and complex issues she was able to immediately identify and help. If she could help me, I know she can help you too.
Taylor E.
You did more in 45 minutes than my last therapist did in a year.
Jamie
With your help, I've finally started to understand that while my vivid imagination often wants to create terrifying monsters under the bed, in a lot of cases those monsters are nothing more than a heap of decidedly less-terrifying laundry I've avoided for too long that just needs to be aired out and put away. Which is definitely a lot easier than monster slaying. Thank you for shedding light in the dark places I was too afraid to face alone.
Morgan B.
I am extremely fortunate to work with Sydney, who is helping me create real internal change. The talent to listen well is Hall of Fame stuff, and she has that. She then follows with questions, strategies that are organic to the moment. I have come to believe that deep, radical, if occasionally deeply painful change ... and, then, healing can happen. I'm just at the lip of that last part - but would not have gotten there, AT ALL, without Sydney
Ric K.
The best therapist ever! Life-changing 🙂
Catherine H.
Right now, the work is changing my life, sometimes in inches, sometimes in miles.
Ric K.
