GRIEF AND EXISTENTIAL QUESTIONS
Grief and loss often snap us out of our comfortable lives.
We see for the first time, what was always there: our utter powerlessness.
This is no joke and can rock us to our core.
It brings up deep, existential questions about the nature of our lives.
It forces us to confront our mortality, face our limitations, and ask ourselves difficult questions.
Like nothing else, grief brings into stark clarity so many painful truths about the human condition that we could previously ignore.
But with its pain comes many lessons: learning to surrender to what we cannot control, to tolerate uncertainty, and to create lives of great meaning and purpose.
Grief invites us to look more deeply at ourselves and to discover what matters to us and why.
At My LA Therapy, we are here to reckon with these issues alongside you and guide you into greater peace, resiliency, and acceptance.
STAGES OF GRIEF
While grief is not linear and everyone experiences it differently, psychiatrist Elisabeth Kubler-Ross identified several common stages people experience after a major loss: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, and Acceptance.
These do not happen in any particular order, and they may come and go in cycles.
When you experience the Denial stage, you may disbelieve what has happened.
You may feel like everything is a bad dream and that once you wake up, life will go back to normal.
You may cope by thinking that you received the wrong news and that someone else must have died.
You may continue living in a preferred reality—one in which the deceased is still alive.
In the Anger stage, reality sets in and you may feel enraged about how unfair your situation is.
You may question your higher power and direct your rage at those undeserving of it, and question why this happened to you and not someone else.
It’s important to allow yourself to feel every emotion during this stage—because expressing all of your emotions is the only way you’ll begin to move through them and heal.
When the Bargaining stage sets in, you may try to negotiate for normality and getting your old life back.
You may ask god for your loved one to come back, and offer a bargain of different things for that to happen.
You may feel extreme guilt and ponder “what if ” statements, thinking of what could have been had you been able to do more.
The Depression stage is characterized with emptiness and the realization that the person is gone forever.
You might feel numb and lack the motivation to even do basic tasks such as brushing your teeth or getting out of bed.
It is important to seek help during this time, especially if you’re feeling suicidal.
Lastly, Acceptance finally sets in.
There may be times when you feel acceptance for a while, only to return and move in and out of previous stages, and that’s all part of the process.
Grief comes in waves, each stage offers a new round to move through.
You might not ever “get over” the death of your loved one, but you will be able to move on in your life as you surrender to what is and allow yourself to move through your emotions.
As painful as it is, with the right help, you will come out stronger than before.
Our goal is to help you find compassion and kindness for yourself in your grief so that you can heal and rediscover a sense of meaning and peace.
OUR THERAPY METHODS FOR GRIEF, LOSS, & BEREAVEMENT
Therapy can successfully improve your life by helping you minimize the anxiety in your life, identify and change underlying thought and behavioral patterns that contribute to your struggles, and provide you with strategies to decrease discomfort while restoring an overall sense of peace.
Our evidence-based, scientifically proven interventions are demonstrated by research to be effective in addressing mental health issues associated with grief, loss, and bereavement, such as depression, anxiety, and PTSD.
Learn more about our empirically based therapy modalities by visiting our Methods page.
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If you have any questions, contact one of our grief specialists for a free consultation any time.