Codependency and Relationship Addiction Therapy

Dating can be as intoxicating and exciting as it is painful and destructive. 

And sometimes we find ourselves in relationships that hurt us or just aren’t right for us, but we still have a hard time leaving. 

A bad relationship can feel like we’re trapped in a soul-sucking prison, or experiencing a chaotic addiction with euphoric highs and painful lows.

Sound familiar? 

If you can relate, then it’s time to find a therapist that can help you on your path to freedom.

We’re aware that trying to find the right person can be a painful task, and even more so now with the craziness of dating apps and social media! 

When we can’t seem to find a match, or when we move from one failed relationship to the next, we may begin to question if something is wrong with us. 

Our licensed therapists and relationship experts specialize in helping you identify and overcome subconscious “walls” that are getting in the way of finding a healthy relationship. 

As we bring awareness to those walls and begin to heal them, you will start to approach dating in a whole new way!

SIGNS OF CODEPENDENCY AND RELATIONSHIP ADDICTION

Like everything, codependency and relationship addiction lie on a spectrum.

We all have some codependent traits, but when these traits begin to overtake your relationships, it’s time to seek help. 

Codepedency can develop when either you or your partner excessively relies on the other to fulfill social or emotional needs. 

If one person is codependent, the relationship can start to feel very one-sided and can be extremely damaging if you don’t take the steps to free yourself from it.

There are some visible symptoms of codependent relationships that you should look out for. If any of these apply to you, it’s time to speak to a therapist.

• You want to please people all the time. Saying “no” is really hard for you, and you sacrifice your time or mental wellbeing each time in order to satisfy your partner’s needs.
• You have low self-esteem. You don’t feel as if you are worth it, or enough. You might even feel as if no one can love you. 
• You have weak boundaries. You might be willing to do anything for anyone, or have trouble with stopping. Also, some codependent people can have rigid boundaries, blocking everyone off from getting too close to them, while others can switch whether they have rigid or weak boundaries.
• You feel reactive. You might feel “threatened by disagreements,” or you may believe someone else’s opinion right away without checking in with yourself and your sense about the situation at hand.
• You have trouble communicating your thoughts and feelings to your partner, because you don’t want to displease anyone. 
• You can become obsessed with any mistakes you have made, or with other peoples’ relationships. 
• You need other people to like you to feel okay about yourself.
• You have difficulties with intimacy
• You go from relationship to relationship and have a hard time being alone
• You have intense, short-lived relationships or long, on-again, off-again relationships that are filled with a lot of drama and ups and downs 
• You might deal with any negative emotions that can take a toll on you, such as stress, anxiety, hopelessness, or anger.

THERAPY WILL HELP YOU:

• Overcome self-esteem issues, insecurity, and body image issues.
• Develop more confidence in yourself and what you have to offer.
• Identify and remove subconscious walls that get in the way of potential partners seeing who you really are.
• Become aware of ways in which you may inadvertently or unconsciously sabotage your relationships.
• Change the unhealthy patterns in your relationships and begin to relate to your partners in a new, healthy way.
• Trace the roots of your attraction to partners who may not be able to meet your needs.
• Begin to heal the underlying issues that get in the way of having close, stable relationships with people who love and respect you.
• Become more independent so that you are entering into a partnership out of love rather than out of neediness or fear of being alone.

With therapy, you will begin to move through your dating life and your relationships with greater ease. 

You will find that you become more open to others and that others are more drawn to you as a result. 

You will learn to find joy, even in being alone. 

You will become more aware of red flags in others and learn to listen to yourself so that you don’t continue going down the same painful, repeating paths in relationships. 

Exploring dating relationships in therapy can help us trace and understand the origins of our painful patterns and bring them under our conscious control so that we can experience true intimacy, love ,and acceptance with the right people.