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When our self-esteem is low, it can create a ripple effect in our lives, affecting everything from our relationships and work to our mental wellbeing and physical health.
When we are hard on ourselves and weighed down by low self-esteem, we don’t bring our full selves to the table.
We play small.
We don’t step into the possibilities and capabilities that are inside us.
When we approach life this way, it creates a self-reinforcing feedback loop that can lead to withdrawal, self-consciousness, anxiety, and feelings of rejection and social isolation.
You might find that once this loop is reinforced, it is very difficult to build back your self-worth because it has been so deeply ingrained in your brain.
That’s where we come in.
At My LA Therapy, our therapists use scientifically proven techniques such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing), and Psychodynamic Therapy to literally rewire your brain.
How cool is that?
Therapy will help you transform your conditioned patterns and rewire your neural and somatic pathways to increase your inner confidence, improve your relationships and career, and help you kick butt in life.
If you are suffering from low self-esteem, here are some common statements and self-limiting beliefs you might find yourself saying out loud or in your head:
Do any of these sound familiar?
If you relate to any of these negative statements you might want to check out our Thought Mastery Guide and Core Beliefs Inventory for pro tips, tricks, and strategies to overcome your limiting core beliefs and irrational thoughts to become more confident, hopeful, and at peace.
We’re so confident in our extraordinary therapists that we guarantee you’ll love your match – or your money back.
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This kind of negative self-talk is both a symptom and a perpetuator of anxiety and depression, and can contribute to other self-destructive behaviors, relationship and work problems, and mental health concerns such as:
Low self-esteem often stems from early development, when children internalize harsh criticism, bullying, or abusive behavior and/or internalize their parents modeling low self-esteem.
This can happen when one or both parents are unsupportive, enforce unachievable expectations on their child or have a tendency to diminish the child’s accomplishments.
Even if parents are supportive of their children, if parents are hard on themselves, perfectionistic, and self-critical, children have a habit of picking this up and internalizing these behaviors by osmosis.
Child neglect or abuse can also cause significant low self-esteem, which is why a positive attachment to parents in early adolescence is crucial to fostering self-worth.
What is a positive attachment, you may ask? It’s when a child’s needs are met by their parents, leaving them feeling secure and understood.
Self-esteem issues can develop outside the home as well.
For example, if a child is left out or bullied by their peers, they may develop low self-esteem and attach their worth to how others view them.
Especially in today’s age of Instagram and social media, bullying and cyberbullying are bigger problems than ever before.
Plus, kids and teens are often exposed to filtered images and unrealistic beauty standards which can take a hit to anyone’s self-esteem.
Yep, even a 35-year-old adult!
Which brings us to low self-esteem in adults. Low self-esteem can start in adulthood as a result of traumatic life events such as breakups and loss of employment—which in turn can set off a cycle of negative self-talk and isolation.
Typically, there are underlying vulnerabilities that begin in childhood and are brought to the surface later in life through various stressors and trauma.
Therapy helps us identify where our vulnerabilities lie and take effective steps to repair them.
Additionally, in therapy, we rebuild ourselves from the ground up, creating a solid foundation for greater self-worth, resiliency, and confidence.
Our highly-trained therapists can help you uncover the roots of your low self-esteem and shift your shame and self-doubt into confidence and self-worth.
How wonderful does that sound?
Developing deeper self-awareness and greater confidence though therapy will help you become a more robust and resilient person so you can face life’s difficulties and setbacks with greater ease and grace.
As you begin to push yourself to tackle uncomfortable situations and try new things, you’ll begin to view the world in a new way, creating an ever-growing cycle of confidence, inner stability, and renewed passion for life.
Our evidence-based, scientifically proven interventions are shown to be effective for overcoming low-self esteem, depression, and anxiety.
Learn more about our empirically based therapy modalities by visiting our Methods page.
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I am blown away! I don’t write testimonials, unless I have been extremely moved by something. I was blessed to work with Brooke on a single session, and before this I was in therapy on and off with multiple therapists for the last 20 years of my life. Brooke was able to do more in one session than many years of work with my previous therapist. She has the true gift of great insight and compassion while also getting straight to the heart of your blind spots and unconscious issues in a way that has truly changed my life.
Skyler J.
There are people who are good at their work there are people like Brooke: who are born to do it. I cannot recommend Brooke more highly. I can only imagine where I would be today if I had started working with her years ago. From the beginning of our session, she knew exactly what tools and questions that would work for my particular psychology and my personal experience. No other therapist has been able to do that or anything close.
What I also really appreciate from our session is Brooke's ability to go directly to the source of the issue while also keeping a very gentle and kind energy with me. I felt very seen, understood, and supported. Everything and more that I could have ever asked for from a therapist. I have a severe trauma history and complex issues she was able to immediately identify and help. If she could help me, I know she can help you too.
Taylor E.
You did more in 45 minutes than my last therapist did in a year.
Jamie
With your help, I've finally started to understand that while my vivid imagination often wants to create terrifying monsters under the bed, in a lot of cases those monsters are nothing more than a heap of decidedly less-terrifying laundry I've avoided for too long that just needs to be aired out and put away. Which is definitely a lot easier than monster slaying. Thank you for shedding light in the dark places I was too afraid to face alone.
Morgan B.
I am extremely fortunate to work with Sydney, who is helping me create real internal change. The talent to listen well is Hall of Fame stuff, and she has that. She then follows with questions, strategies that are organic to the moment. I have come to believe that deep, radical, if occasionally deeply painful change ... and, then, healing can happen. I'm just at the lip of that last part - but would not have gotten there, AT ALL, without Sydney
Ric K.
The best therapist ever! Life-changing 🙂
Catherine H.
Right now, the work is changing my life, sometimes in inches, sometimes in miles.
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