Are you playing the infinite game?

“We have it in our power to begin the world over again.”

- Thomas Paine

Change your mind, change the world

To the extent that each of us looks in the mirror honestly and does our own inner work steadfastly, we begin to change the culture.

As we do this together, we have the power to shift the collective consciousness and affect systemic change.

Because guess what?

Our systems are just made up agreements. So in a very tangible way, changing the world is as simple as changing our minds.

But only if we do it together.

We have been conditioned to believe that changing the world is impossible. Because if we believe the narrative that we are powerless, we aren’t a threat to the prevailing power structures.

So the more we fail to do inner work as individuals, the more oppressive systems can continue to thrive—and the more these systems thrive, the further they throttle each individual’s ability to heal and awaken.

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It’s a feedback loop

And self-doubt is at the heart of it. Self-doubt is what enables systems of oppression to continue on both micro and macro levels. 

Awake people do not allow themselves to be oppressed. 

Because of how deeply our cultural programming runs, often our individual psyches and internal ways of being are a microcosm of the sociopolitical systems in which we find ourselves. And conversely, the microcosm of our individual ways of thinking and being becomes reflected in the macrocosm of society as a whole.

If we can begin to deprogram our cultural conditioning and heal the trauma that wounds our self-trust, we can reclaim our intuition, step into individual and collective transformation, and enter a new paradigm together.

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That’s the infinite game.

In the finite game, more for you is less for me. In the infinite game, more for any of us is more for all of us.

In the infinite game, when one of us thrives, we help others thrive, and as the community thrives, individuals thrive even more and on and on ad infinitum.

This means we are no longer in competition with one another because we recognize that what hurts one of us hurts us all, and what heals each of us individually serves collective healing. Because our individual and collective wellbeing are inextricably entwined. 

We’re not really separate. 

When we begin to see that our systemic and societal problems are tangibly created by our collective ideas of what is acceptable, we recognize that global problems are not logistical. They’re actually spiritual.

For the first time in history, we have the resources, infrastructure, and technology to eradicate global poverty and feed every human on the planet.

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So why don't we?

Mostly because we’ve been conditioned to believe we can’t. We’ve been sold the narrative that we are powerless and that these problems are actually intractable.

But this narrative is only “true” because we believe it is. It’s a self-fulfilling prophecy.

The problems are in fact intractable if we believe they are. And they are also wholly solvable if we believe they are.
It’s like that old saying, “Whether you believe you can or you believe you can’t, you’re right.”

It reminds me of that scene from Elf when Zooey Deschanel starts to sing to make Santa’s sleigh fly. And at first she’s the only one singing so nothing happens. But when everyone starts singing, it takes off.

There’s a reason that scene is touching that is deeper than meets the eye. It speaks to some deep intuition we have about what is possible.

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It’s a metaphor for a deep truth about collective belief and action: When people band together and believe they can do the impossible, the impossible happens.

Think about how many things that seemed impossible historically have been achieved. Walking on the moon was only possible because we decided to believe it was. In a way, collective beliefs have the power of a kind of miracle.

Our monetary, political, and social systems are all just made up reflections of what we all believe is possible and acceptable. And we desperately need an upgrade in our beliefs about what is possible because what is possible has changed significantly in our lifetimes but we haven’t caught up.

When we pull back the curtain, we see that in a very concrete and real way, our shared beliefs are the basis of every external system in our society.

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By rejecting the conditioned narrative that there isn’t enough to go around, we recognize the inherent abundance that exists when resources are wielded equitably within just systems.

Freeing our minds from the limitations of our conditioned realities allows us to wake up to individual and collective possibilities beyond our ordinary comprehension, and invite others into this awakened state.

This actually makes miracles possible and has the potential to change the world in meaningful ways.

In this way, each of us has the power to substantively change the world. Half of the battle of systemic change is just dismantling the belief that we can’t.

That is why I’ve been inspired to curate a once-in-a-lifetime experience centered around reawakening soulful living by reclaiming our intuition and cultivating individual and collective transformation.

Our latest podcast episode dives deep into these ideas. Foa Kinfyre and I explore topics such as codependency, parts work, dismantling conditioned beliefs and power structures, art as a spiritual practice, creativity and pleasure as activism, and the way personal and collective awakening are interwoven.

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[Music] hello and welcome to on living with Brooke Sproul I’m Brooke Sproul and my  
lovely guest today is boa kinfire an old friend of mine a dear friend   of mine and a very powerful somatic  practitioner educator and healer she’s 
also a musician and performance  artist and a dream worker and   I’m really excited to see what emerges today welcome thanks thanks Brooke for having me so  
where shall We Begin what have you been pondering lately well I’m   I’m currently like in a in the suburbs which isn’t a place that I feel comfortable in 
um so that’s on my mind and just feeling  the the control the the clear control and 
the simulation of the suburbs  and how the design is for safety 
um that they actually make me feel less  safe so that’s sort of like the first thing 
that I’m you know that genuinely is sort  of living on the surface of my experience 
I’ve been visiting the suburbs as  well and having similar experiences I 
remember a month or so ago I was down  there and I and a fork course this isn’t 
entirely true this is an oversimplification or  over generalization but the feeling I had was 
I can just you know fit myself into what  I think I’m supposed to be then I can 
maybe put off the task permanently or  temporarily of deep self-examination so 
I don’t know if that’s true that might  be a complete projection but that was   the feeling that I had along with a feeling of  
just a a lack of cultural value for individuality and individual expression  
a good feeling like because since we  both grew up there feeling like I have  to show up a certain way to be accepted  as opposed to I’m celebrated in my 
uniqueness um interesting yeah it’s  interesting to think about design 
and how it impacts our personalities world view 
um yeah because I I imagine that  avoiding looking at what’s difficult 
exists in other you know in  other Scapes and other sort 
of like City designs but there is something  about um the suburbs thought it feels 
it feels denuded it feels like the Wilds  doesn’t really exist there on purpose 
um and I you know again yeah we’re  speaking in generalizations but 
I also feel like there is something  about individualism of like this is   my property like this is mine you know so there’s maybe individuality of ownership  
um but there is like this sort of falling in line with um presentation [Music]  
that does feel like a pattern um and sort of formula formulaic  
um it is interesting we both grew up in the context how do you why we became friends  
so Outsiders Outsiders I know if it wasn’t for like Emo music and the in the  
early 2000s [Laughter] it really was helpful 
it’s like everything sucks and it’s painful  you know it’s like I needed everything to  
counterweight everything I was seeing around me where   everything was fine right right yeah and I agree with what you said  
about of course in every human we all in some ways aren’t looking we all in some  
ways are avoiding it’s not it’s not to  make a statement that that’s not present  in me even right now in real time there  are of course ways in which we all  
don’t look but there’s something I had this feeling about and more systematic or a more 
robust feeling about that like and  not not like that that it’s conscious 
um but just like oh there’s that that  feels like the culture there and then we 
set about you know the individualism  versus individuality perhaps is one way 
of framing it um what I’ve been  thinking a lot about lately is how 
like each there’s all these different  movements you know socially culturally 
um politically and there’s a reason that  they that many movements you know even 
where we might look and say oh that’s  that’s not the most constructive 
movement there’s a reason that they  resonate with a lot of people and it’s   because in my from my perspective there’s some truth and some real  
deep value that that movement is speaking to people but the reason that in in my view they  
might be not not be constructive is because they leave out the other   side of the conversation so when I was  thinking about what you’re saying about 
individualism versus individuality I was  thinking oh there’s this really strong 
individualism and it’s not balanced with  collectivism you know like it feels like 
it’s it’s individual and then  it’s Conformity and it’s not 
like individuality and Collective  integration like there’s there’s some 
perversion of what I think is an optimal  kind of way of structuring a culture 
which is we we kind of celebrate  each individual’s attributes while 
um kind of collaborating collect you know  as a collective and finding a place for 
each person in reciprocal service yeah  and it’s not to say that there aren’t   other places I mean I think it I think in every culture I’m sure there’s ways  
that things can be recalibrated to  be more optimal like maybe there are  certain cultures that are so collectivist  that the individuality gets denigrated  
in some ways that are hurtful of course that exists as well   so there are all sorts of ways in which you  know we can I think that not only we can but 
we have the responsibility to be looking  at where these where that balance is and 
how to recalibrate and create a more  optimal way of relating yeah yeah 
absolutely yeah for some reason as you’re speaking   I was reminded of [Music] um the cul-de-sac maybe  
it’s because you live you grew up on a cul-de-sac   and like the design and function of the cul-de-sac was like this filtration system  
to keep you know the Riff Raff out or to see who’s in your neighborhood there’s  
a book about I’m forgetting the name of  the author called the wages of whiteness  and and white supremacy in in  Suburban designs specifically in that 
the cul-de-sac sort of functions as  keeping people that symbolize poverty 
sort of out slows them down you  kind of get a chance to see them   you know get a take on them and um and then on top of that again specifically  
referencing the bio original  bio region in which we grow up  grew up in thinking about how many  neighborhoods were actually built on Marshland 
and how that is actually the ecological filtration  system that like helps to purify the rain water 
that goes out to see and so there’s this sort  of like simulation of filtration that’s based 
off of ideas and ideologies and  then there’s the Erasure of the 
actual filtration system that supports you  know aquifers and Marsh territories and and 
ocean territories and I don’t know why that’s  coming to mind as I was listening to you 
I think I just sort of like drew me into  like an ecological perspective on what’s 
happening in in the where we called home  I’d also love to talk about some of the 
things we’ve been communicating  about lately separately   um because I think something I’m feeling really in touch with right now is my own  
wounding so often I’m speaking to the  capacity that we all have to transcend 
our ordinary limitations and you know  live our greatest potentialities and   make an impact on the world and and Achieve kind of Awakened States Of  
Consciousness and you know all of that  is true and I believe it and I think  that I also want to just be  really mindful of speaking to 
how our wounding is a part of  of what opens up our Highest 
Potential it’s anything any way in  which we engage with our you know 
limitations is ultimately kind  of a part of the process that 
allows us to become the greatest version  of who we are and so I’m feeling kind of 
in touch with my wounding right now um  and my uh my limitations my struggles 
and kind of you know was thinking  about potentially exploring some of the 
conversations we’ve been having around  codependency boundaries communication 
um you know would you be interested in  exploring that I’ve been dealing as you 
know with chronic pain and being  medically disabled since I was 12 and 
I’ve tried a lot of different things to  try to make that pain go away and make 
myself different   and a part of it is natural you know to it’s natural for us to not want to feel pain  
and what I’ve found recently that just feels so