3 Tips to Motivate Your Kids

Persuading your kids to do activities they dislike is a difficult parenting experience. Again, asking them to stop doing certain things they love to do is even more challenging. Parenting calls for patience and perseverance to make your children listen to you. Coercion will not help but make things even worse.

According to an article published on Huffpost.com, encouraging goal-based conversations go a long way in motivating kids. It is important to spend time with your children and talk to them as their friends and not guardians. There are codes of behavior that work with kids and some that do not work as well. Here are three tips to motivate your kids and improve their behavior:

Reward your children

If you have a son and want to toilet-train him, you need to reward your kiddo every time he pees in the bathroom. One chocolate or candy will do the trick. Scolding or shouting will not help. Rewards or small gifts motivate your kids to stop doing things that you asked them to avoid.

Then, what will happen if that behavior becomes reliant on the rewards or gifts? There are ways like motivating your child to cultivate good habits that make him or her feel better from within. For example, the amount of satisfaction in a newly acquired skill, keeping their room clean, and going to bed on time.

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Thought of the day and conversations

Talking or having meaningful conversations about why a thing makes sense and why certain things are bad for them can do wonders. You can paste a paper cutting on your kid’s room with a thought of the day message like “Keep your room organized” or “Cultivate good habits.” Some parents bribe their kids while shopping at a departmental store. For instance, if your kid behaves, you give him a toy from the dollar counter of the store.

When your kids disagree with certain tasks, have a meaningful conversation with them. Try to see things from their perspective. You can talk to your kid and explain why certain activity is essential for their healthy upbringing. Make the conversation friendly and respectful. If your child refuses to tidy her books on the table after playing outside, tell her, “Take some rest, have dinner, and then organize your study table.”

Appreciate your kid’s efforts

Your child wakes up in the morning and got ready for his school. He has cultivated this habit and practices it every day. If so, appreciate his efforts. Give him a pat on his back. Your child should feel that you observe his good habits and not always point out his mistakes. Every kid loves to please his or her papa and mum. Therefore, express appreciation to show that you love them. Praise your kiddo, but be a little careful about the praise. Emphasis more on growth and effort than the result! The appreciation must be about your kids and not about how you made them cultivate the good habit.

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Guest Writer Bio


Sujain Thomas is a writer, blogger and a trusted parenting expert who offers practical, research-based solutions. Her work focuses on parenting and children’s feelings and friendships. Nowadays she works for Getlitt.co a digital library for kids.




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